Lieutenant Seivarden, I said, was accustomed to receiving the respect and admiration of anyone she thought mattered. Or at least accustomed to receiving the signs of it. In all the vast universe, she knew she had a place, and that place was surrounded and shored up by all the other people around her. And when she came out of that suspension pod, all of that was gone, and she had no place, no one around her to tell her who she was. Suddenly she was no one.

Androl Genhald from Wheel of Time and Seivarden Vendaai from Ancillary Mercy. I am slowly starting to understand.